Anyone who knows me really well knows that I do not have a good
memory. I often called Dory from the
movie “Finding Nemo”. I can re-read a
book and it could be brand new for me.
My kids find this trait of mine quite awesome and use it to their
advantage…
I use a variety of techniques to help me remember. I have a calendar on my phone and write all
of my appointments in there. I write
things on sticky notes or make lists.
Sometimes objects help me remember like daisies, pinwheels, or music. But those things for a different reason for
remembering.
On April 25th 2008,nearly five years ago, I had the privilege
of holding an angel. She was
perfect. She was pure and she was
silent. While in labor, my sweet
daughter passed away. I don’t need a
reminder on my phone to tell me to remember my Rebecca Phoebe. I don’t need sticky notes on my computer or a
list to write down. She is forever
etched into my heart. The remembering
that I do for her is much more eternally
deep place. I will never forget her.
Every Sunday we as members of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day
Saints have the privilege of renewing our baptismal covenants by partaking of
the sacrament. We are commanded to
always remember or Savior Jesus Christ and in return we will always have His
Spirit to be with us. Is the Savior
etched deep into our hearts?
Elder D. Todd Christofferson said, “The sacramental prayers confirm that
one of the central purposes of the sacrament as instituted by the Lord Jesus
Christ is that we might “always remember him”.
Remembering the Savior obviously includes remembering his Atonement,
which is symbolically represented by the bread and water as emblems of His
suffering and death. We must never
forget what He did for us, for without His Atonement and Resurrection, life
would have no meaning. With His Atonement and Resurrection, howver, our lives
have eternal, divine possibilities.”
We covenant to always remember our Savior and to keep His commandments and
in return we will always have His Spirit to be with us. Let’s talk about the opposite of
remembering. Let’s talk about forgetting
our Father’s mighty hand.
In the Book of Mormon we are constantly reminded by Nephi’s faithfulness
to the commandments that he and his family were given. As some of his family were desirous to return
back to the wicked Jerusalem Nephi said this, “Yea, and how is it that ye have
forgotten what great things the Lord hath done for us.. Yea and how is it that
ye have forgotten that the Lord is able to do ALL THINGS according to his will,
for the children of men, if it so be that they exercise faith in him. Wherefore, let us be faithful to him. “
I have noticed that it is pretty easy to go with the flow and not count
blessings as much when life is going well and perhaps forget the daily
blessings that are given to us. What are
you forgetting that the Lord has done for you?
It is easier for me to get through the trials of my life when I remember
the small and simple things that I have been given and to remember that the
Lord is involved in the details of our lives.
Even to the smallest of details.
Mosiah reminds us in Mosiah chapter 2 of the things that maybe we take for
granted. He said: -I say unto you that if ye should serve him who
has created you from the beginning and is preserving you from day to day by
lending you breath that ye may live and move and do according to your own will
and even supporting you from one moment to another- I say, if ye should serve
him with all your whole souls yet ye would be unprofitable servants. AND BEHOLD ALL THE HE REQUIRES OF YOU IS TO
KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS… for if ye do, he doth IMMEDIATELY BLESS YOU.
This verse hit me with a lot of force shortly after I lost my
daughter. Anyone who has lost someone
dear to their hearts knows how precious even breathing can be. Even living one more day. There have been many times as I have been
crumpled on my knees, too weary to carry my heavy load any longer and I choose consciously
to keep his commandments more fully and I receive immediate blessings and peace
spoken to my soul. Remember His hand
even in the small things.
I would like to shift from the forgetting the Lord in our lives to two
other things where it may be hard to always remember him. Those two things are afflictions and
sins. Sometimes you have afflictions
because of your own choices and other times because the choices of others. Either way, the Lord gives afflictions so
that we may come back to Him.
In 1 Nephi 17:41, it says:
“And he did straigten them in the wilderness with his rod; for they
hardened their hearts, even as ye have; and the Lord straigtened them because
of their iniquity. He sent fiery flying
serpents among them; and after they were bitten he prepared a way that they
might be healed; and the labor which they had to perform was to look; and
because of the simpleness of the way, or the easiness of it, there were many
who perished.”
We all have fiery serpents in our lives that our scary and
devastating. We all have the simple
antedote to the bites of life. It is to
look to the Savior and live. The Lord
saves the righteous! Then the righteous may forget. He straightens them because he wants them
back. Sometimes the straightening is
severe. But the way back is simple. Look and Live! The Lord understands the human nature of
cycles. Be gentle and humble yourself
when you see yourself straying. There is
power in faith and obedience. There is always peace and healing to be had after
trial and sin. All you have to do is
look.
In Jacob 3:1- But behold, I, Jacob,
would speak unto you that are pure in heart.
LOOK unto God with firmness of mind, and pray unto him with exceeding
faith, and he will console you in your afflictions, and he will plead your
cause.
“Look” has the imagery of turning
away from what concerns you and turning to God with firmness and not getting
distracted by the trial at hand. When
you do that He WILL console. I have had
experiences where I consciously chose to LOOK and was immediately blessed. Remember to LOOK!
I love reading
about Lehi’s son Jacob. Even the preface
of what Lehi gives him gives an indicator at how much more Jacob understands
because of afflictions that he was born into. 1 And now, Jacob, I
speak unto you: Thou art my afirstborn
in the days of my tribulation in the wilderness. And behold, in thy childhood
thou hast suffered afflictions and much sorrow, because of the rudeness of thy
brethren.
2 Nevertheless, Jacob, my
firstborn in the wilderness, thou knowest the greatness of God; and he shall
consecrate thine aafflictions
for thy gain.
FOR IT MUST NEEDS BE AN OPPOSITION IN ALL THINGS. If not so, my first-born in the wildernss,
righteousness could not be brought to pass.. And if there be no righteousness
there be no happiness
If we didn’t have opposition, whether it comes in the form of sin or
affliction, we could experience no happiness for we wouldn’t know the
difference.
In 3 Nephi
chapter 27:14-15 it says “And my Father sent me
that I might be lifted up upon the cross; and after that I had been lifted up
upon the cross, that I might draw all men unto me, that as I have been lifted
up by men even so should men be lifted up by the Father, to stand before me, to
be judged of their works, whether they be good or whether they be evil—
“And for this cause have I been lifted up; therefore,
according to the power of the Father I will draw all men unto me, that they may
be judged according to their works”
I firmly believe that we all have our own cross to bear. Maybe it is illness, financial difficulties,
wayward loved ones, loss of loved ones, being single, or the inability to have
children. The list can go on and
on. It has been in my own gethsemanes
where I have learned the most. Those
times where you feel utterly alone and that no person can truly understand what
you are going through. Those times when
you wish you could pass on that bitter cup.
I am coming to realize that when I passing through my intense sorrow and
grief, heaven is never closer. When I
lift my eyes, mind and heart and remember Him you lifted himself on the cross
for me, do I remember that he bore all things so that he may know how to succor
me. This is where the Sacrament promise
to always remember him can come to my rescue because as I remember, I remember
the hope that is the Savior.
To those who are weary with trying to continue to provide the necessities
of life remembering this scripture can bring the rest that you may need- Come,
my brethren, every one that thirsteth, come ye to the waters; and he that hath
no money, come buy and eat; yea, come buy wine and milk without money and
without price. Wherefore, do not spend
money for that whish is of no worth, nor your labor for that which cannot
satisfy. Hearken diligently unto me, and
REMEMBER the words that I have spokem; and come unto the Holy One of Isreal,
and FEAST upon that which perisheth not, neither can be corrupted, and let your
soul delight in fatness
As I carry my own cross through life, I am not alone as the Savior was. In
the Liberty Jail where Joseph Smith experienced his own Gesthemane, we read of
incredible words of strength and courage given to Joseph Smith. Here is what the Lord said to Joseph in
Section 122
6 If thou art aaccused with
all manner of false accusations; if thine enemies fall upon thee; if they tear
thee from the society of thy father and mother and brethren and sisters; and if
with a drawn sword thine enemies tear thee from the bosom of thy wife, and of
thine offspring, and thine elder son, although but six years of age, shall
cling to thy garments, and shall say, My father, my father, why can’t you stay
with us? O, my father, what are the men going to do with you? and if then he
shall be thrust from thee by the sword, and thou be dragged to bprison, and
thine enemies prowl around thee like cwolves for
the blood of the lamb;
7 And if thou shouldst be cast
into the apit, or
into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if
thou be cast into the bdeep; if
the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy;
if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to chedge up
the way; and above all, if the very jaws of dhell shall
gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things
shall give thee eexperience, and
shall be for thy good.
All these experiences shall be for our good. And the Savior experienced them all. Most readings of this passage ends on the
“Art thou greater than he” but the next sentence to me seals the deal.
9 Therefore, ahold on
thy way!
Hold on thy way!
Keep putting that one foot in front of the other. Hold fast to the teachings and commandments
that are given to us. Put your faith in
the Master who knows the intimate corners of your heart. Remember him!
Remember him that we may have joy.
Because after affliction comes joy.
Now for the how.
Remember that scripture I read earlier about the fiery
serpents. Where those who were bitten
just needed to look and live? Our “how”
is the same. Very simple. Very effective.
D. Todd Christofferson said:
We should first put in place the things that make it possible to always
remember Him—frequent prayer and scripture study, thoughtful study of apostolic
teachings, weekly preparation to partake of the sacrament worthily, Sunday
worship, and recording and remembering what the Spirit and experience teach us
about discipleship.
In short, to “always remember him” means that we do not
live our lives in fear. We know that challenges, disappointments, and sorrows
will come to each of us in different ways, but we also know that in the end,
because of our divine Advocate, all things can be made to work together for our
good. It is the faith expressed so
simply by President Gordon B. Hinckley
when he would say, “Things will work out.” 4 When
we always remember the Savior, we can “cheerfully do all things that lie in our
power,” confident that His power and love for us will see us through.
May we always remember Him—“that [we] may always have his
spirit to be with [us]” I bear my
witness of the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ. I bear witness of the
reality of the living, resurrected Lord. I bear witness of the infinite and
personal love of the Father and the Son for each of us, and I pray that we will
live in constant remembrance of that love in all its expressions.”
I love that phrase, “Things will work out.” Keeping that in your head and the Savior in
your heart, you cannot fail.
My experience with my precious Phoebe is one that I would
never trade. The veil was so thin those
few times that I was in her precense. I
had a taste of what heaven must be like even through my intense sadness and
grief. It is difficult traveling through
this world without her. It would be even
more difficult without the atonement that was made to make it possible to see
her again.
As I always remember my savior I am able to see his mighty
hand in my life even through some of life’s toughest challenges. As I LOOK and LIVE I am healed from life’s
stings. As I remember and hold on my
way, I am saved to be lifted up at the last day. Just as the Savior was lifted up on the
cross, I too will be lifted up because of his redeeming love.
I miss my daughter, but I don’t
need a reminder to remember her. As I
remember my Savior I am carried through the afflictions of this life to grow
and experience joy that I have never felt before. I am not forgotten even if at times I don’t
always remember him.
1 Nephi 21 it says, “For can a woman forget her sucking child, that she
should not have compassion on the [daughter] of her womb? I will not forget thee. Behold I have graven
thee upon the palms of my hands.
How grateful I am that I am safe in his hands.